living well when you have chronic illnesses
Today I thought it would be nice to share some secrets on living well when you have chronic illnesses. So, grab a cup of tea and settle in. When I first became sick, I fell into a deep depression, I had lost my health, my independence, my income, and my career. I wondered if I would ever enjoy my life again, and for a long time I didn’t. But I can honestly say, that though my health has slowly declined, and I have more pain and fatigue; I am so happy now. I have hobbies, a very positive and loved witchcraft practice, this blog, my YouTube channel and a wonderful…
How my thoughts on chronic illness have changed
In this week’s blog post, I thought we would chat about how my thoughts on chronic illness have changed. So, grab a cup of tea lets chat. If you are new to my blog, I should mention that I was a nurse before I became too sick and so my attitudes were very different. As medical professionals, you are conditioned to want to heal and I often got the impression that, especially doctors, wanted to be in surgery or work with illness that they could make better. Chronic illness to me felt like something that rarely occurred because I generally saw people who had been in accidents or were recovering…
Day in my life as a disabled carer
This week I thought I’d share a day in my life as a disabled carer, I hope this helps everyone see that disabled doesn’t mean lazy! I am disabled I have several chronic illnesses; I became sick in my early twenties and spent a lot of my married life alone while my husband worked full time. He was my carer when he could be home and I rarely left the house due to chronic fatigue, and generalised anxiety disorder. My mother has Multiple Sclerosis and lived alone in the home I grew up in, until a fall at the very start of covid made it clear she needed help. We…
Neurodiversity celebration week
It is Neurodiversity celebration week, so I thought I would talk about my experiences as I am still undiagnosed. Now, I do not want to be someone who looks up symptoms and says I have an illness, I have never been that or done that. However, watching people who are advocates for illnesses you think you might have can help you to know for sure. For me, it was when I was scrolling TikTok and saw a creator talking about their childhood and how they struggled. I started to think back to my own and it opened my eyes a lot to how difficult I found it to connect with…
Grieving for my dog
We said goodbye to our beloved Gizmo, and I really just want to talk about grieving for my dog, so nobody feels alone. We got Gizmo when he was 8 weeks old, and me and my now husband had been living together for six weeks. He was small and had been the smallest of a family of pedigree Shih Tzus that had been shown for generations at places like Crufts. However, my baby would never know that life, his legs turned out, he was too small and so he was last to be chosen. Most people in that world are looking for perfection, but I just wanted a pet to…
Dealing With Postpartum Emotions and Finding Strength
After having a baby, emotions can run high especially when you have been through a difficult journey. The pathway towards birth doesn’t always run smoothly and it can cause a lot of upset and anxiety as you recover from such a huge life event. When it comes to dealing with grief and trauma there are so many different ways to process your feelings and find the strength you need to care for your new baby. With this in mind, here are a handful of methods that may help you to find solace as a postpartum mother. Handling Complicated Births Sometimes mothers can experience unexpected complications during birth, which can leave…
3 Mistakes People Make After Losing A Loved One
Nothing prepares you for the crippling emptiness and pain of losing a loved one. You experience a range of emotions that leave you overwhelmed and stressed. You wonder if you will ever smile again and feel uninspired as the days go by. Though you might have friends and family to lean on, it is easy to feel like no one understands your anguish. During these moments, you might develop tendencies that affect your healing journey and the people who are around you. From shutting your loved ones out to self-sabotaging, these factors can negatively impact and delay your healing process. Here are some common mistakes you should avoid after losing…
Practical Ways To Support A Grieving Friend
When a friend loses a loved one, being there for them can be a delicate task. You need patience, compassion, and understanding to help them process the loss and cope with the heartbreak. Sometimes, you don’t know what to say in the midst of comfort. Grief has many stages and it is an individual experience everyone deals with uniquely. Some withdraw while others spiral. It is essential to show up for your friend in a sensitive manner and recognise how their grief manifests itself. While being a shoulder to cry on can be a great way to support them, here are other ways to help them navigate through a difficult…
My brain injury story – Brain Injury Awareness Month
It is Brain Injury Awareness Month and as this has happened in my family, this is my brain injury story. A brain injury can happen to anyone at any time, accidents happen and that is what happened to my parents on holiday. They had gone to Spain to look for property as they were thinking about moving there, they had been many times before. But when pulling out of a junction in a minivan with friends, a car that was speeding hit the side of the car and everything changed! My mom was sitting where the car hit, and though it caused extensive injuries to their friend, I feel more…
Frustrated with fatigue
I have not done a post like this for a while I don’t think, most of the time I try to use my life as a teaching moment here…but I’m just frustrated with fatigue! Looking back, I think I always had some level of fatigue, as I always struggled with keeping up and getting everything done, I wanted, or needed to. But it was manageable, and I honestly thought I just had a level of lazy about me as this was what I was told all the time. But as other Chronic Illnesses have joined the party, and I have grown older I have found myself with fewer and fewer…
