The Softest Version of Self-Care on Low Energy Days
In our society, self-care is often seen as something that needs to be done, bought, aesthetic or aspirational in some way. But on low spoon days, this can feel like another burden that has to be done instead of something…
Wanting to Feel Seen When You’re Chronically Ill
I have had people talking over me and behind me when I’m in my wheelchair, had to say no to plans with friends because it isn’t accessible. I have even gone out with family, only to realise they didn’t book…
Chronic Illness, Identity & Letting Go
There has been a lot of change in my life, I guess that’s why using the name Beverley Butterfly makes sense! But right now, as I step into menopause, and look back to see how chronic illness, identity and letting…
When Your Body Says No
Yesterday I went out to get my hair trimmed and to pick up a couple of things from the shops. It’s something most people do in between other jobs, but for me it was a big trip that would have…
Low-Energy Living: A Gentle Routine for Flare Days
This morning, I woke up tired, my body aching and brain fog making the world seem confusing and words hard to find. I need to write this blog post, and yet when my body is struggling it always feels as…
Transition Seasons & Chronic Illness: Why Spring Isn’t Always Energising
This year, I am trying for gentle living, pacing and supporting my low spoon body instead of constantly pushing it. But with so much pressure to start spring cleaning, this time of year can feel more overwhelming than energising. But…
How Late Winter Affects My Mental Health (and What Helps)
This week I thought we would chat about how late winter affects my mental health, February isn’t festive like December. My energy dips and my thoughts feel heavier with the grey clouds, rain and snow that seem to keep the…
Pacing Yourself in Late Winter When You’re Chronically Ill
By February, the sparkle of January has worn off. The days are still short, the light still thin, and my body feels the weight of it all. Late winter always feels hard with the grey, raining weather being so draining…
Creating Healthful Choices in 2026
It is early January, and though I think of summer as ‘New Year’ I still want to set goals and change things up at this time of year. Creating healthful choices in 2026 however, is not about rigid resolutions that…
Rejecting New Years Pressure
Happy New Year dear readers, and welcome back to the blog! As we step into 2026, I wanted to talk about how important it is to let go of negativity about who you are or were in the year before.…
